It Ain't Me Babe

“…You say you’re lookin’ for someone 

Who’s never weak but always strong 

To protect you and defend you 

Whether you are right or wrong 

Someone to open each and every door

But it ain’t me babe 

No, no, no, it ain’t me babe 

It ain’t me you’re lookin’ for, babe.” - Bob Dylan 

I’ve never thought I could be someone’s everything and I never will. Human beings are imperfect and therefore, they will provide you with imperfect love. No matter how much someone loves you, and no matter what kind of love it is, it’ll ultimately fall short of the perfection that your soul seeks. It’s not a reason to shun love or be disappointed by the love you get. On the contrary, it’s all the more reason you should be more compassionate of the flawed love you receive. 

There is a great strength that comes with loving someone especially when you know it’s the kind of love you’ll give your last breath for. But even in sacrificing loves such as these, we have moments of weakness, moments of unkindness and impatience where the imperfect love that we so often try to cover up is put on display. And in these moments we find that our expectation of love becomes one that can no longer solely include joy and happiness. We find that in love, we must also leave room for hurt. 

From what I’ve known about love, it’s that it is beautiful but also painful. It’s as good and necessary as it is filled with frustration and let downs. Love invigorates and calms but it also empties and exhausts. It makes one want to care about everything and nothing. Love is powerful and love is powerless. Love makes everything make sense while not actually making sense of itself at all. Love just is. 

And we all want it because without love in any shape or form, we start to decay and die way before we take our last breath. And so we love and we promise to give love in all the many ways we do. We promise to always be strong and true and steadfast. And maybe we make too big a promise, oblivious to the reality that our humanity will fail us and leave us short of what we wanted to give and the way that we wanted to love. 

I can’t speak for all so I’ll just speak for myself: If I truly love you, I‘ll love you with all I have but it’ll never be perfect. I will hurt you in my moments of weakness and you will have moments of disappointment. I can only promise that no matter how flawed my love is, it’ll always be the best love I can give. But if you’re looking for someone who’s never weak, who’ll never call you wrong when you are, who’ll never fight with you, look elsewhere. If you’re looking for someone who promises to be your everything and promises you perfect love, it ain’t me babe; it ain’t me you’re looking for.

Bob Dylan and Kovie Biakolo couldn't have said it better.

The One Who Can't Take A Hint

So a lot of people have written about ‘The Ones’ in their lives – the one you love, the one that got away, the one you can’t be with, and all the other ‘The Ones’ you can think of. But let me write about another ‘The One’ that barely gets recognized. I’m pretty sure everyone has already had this one. You know, The One who can’t take a hint.

Agree with me on this: There was a certain period in your life where you hoped for someone you can cuddle with. Thinking that you will meet a person you will like, life gives you someone that you will instantly say no to. While slowly walking away from that someone, that person just bothers you instead like a mad bee wanting to sting a healthy person so bad. Bad analogy, but I think it’s a good description for the one who can’t take a hint.

No matter how many times you repeat yourself and say “Hey, you know what? It’s never going to happen!”, they won’t just take no for an answer. The word “No!” doesn’t seem to penetrate through their ears. Don’t you just hate that? You know, that person miraculously trying to turn a NO into a YES with crazy gestures and silly things. Well, it does happen in the movies. But I don’t think it’s the same in real life - unless you like being surrounded with people who are tiptoeing on the border between being persistent and being a hardcore stalker.

I guess The One Who Can’t Take A Hint has so much persistence in his (or her) mind, body, and soul that even though you made it clear (for the nth time) that it just can’t be, they will push things up to the edge just to defy what you said. They are so determined to prove to the world, and to you, that they’re the right person for you. That they can make a relationship happen between you two. That instead of him being The One Who Can’t Take A Hint, he’ll be The One You Love Forever.

I don’t care if you’re the coolest person on Earth, or you think you’re some really neat celebrity who's  super full of himself, it’ll just never ever be. You’ll never be promoted to The Ultimate One. Dude, just… no. Never. Not now. Not ever.

But what the heck, you won’t digest all that I’ve said because – well, you just can’t take a hint. But I really hope you do.

Two Cents Thursdays: Quitting

As most of us would prefer and do, we'd quit before things turn bad. We tend to assume that it'll always be rainbows and cupcakes, that love should start out as something amazing and stay that way. When the butterflies are gone and arguments start to double in number, cutting the cord becomes appealing. Instead of fighting for the important person in our lives, we let them slip away. In a snap. Just like that.

People enter relationships thinking that it's just about falling in love. We think that after letting your heart beat for a certain person, everything will sail smoothly. But it doesn't work that way.

Relationships need effort (on top of love) in order for it to work. It's sort of a short-term/long-term thing wherein you need to work hard for it everyday in order for it to last long. A quite vague explanation but I hope you get the point. People usually give up once they see the big demand for maintenance and hard work that they need to invest in a relationship. They're scared of dealing with arguments, facing compromises, and overcoming a truckload of challenges.

Let's face it - there's no perfect fairytale relationship. That will never happen; but it doesn't mean that it'll just be bad the whole time. Why give up because of a small fight when you have big reasons to stay and be with the person you're in love with?

It's tough to stay strong and try to eliminate relationship muddles. If you quit before you fix, you might just be giving away your chance of spending extraordinary moments and crazy adventures with someone really great - and someone who loves you more.



* image from Mukti Echwantono

Inspired by OPM

My granddad just celebrated his 80th birthday today, and it turned into a little rockeoke party. Someone sang an OPM song that inspired us to do this cover!

If you know this song, we know how old you are! :)

We're still a "work-in-progress". But we've upgraded to using a ukulele. Hope your eardrums won't hurt.

PS: Sorry for the loud barking dogs.

Just because it's Valentines...

... we made another cover! I didn't hit some a lot of notes very well, I know. We are still considered as "work-in-progress", so please bear with us as we try to reach our dreams and have 100 views.

On another note, it's Valentine's week! I hope everyone will be lovey-dovey and crazy cheesy.

Big Splash!

Summer is coming up! I'm pretty sure a lot of people are getting ready to bring out their summer wardrobe and sport the latest beach wear. If you're a fashion entrepreneur and you want all the yuppies to wear your brand this summer, why not participate at Big Splash?

Big Splash is going to be one of the hottest summer bazaars in the metro! Happening on the last week of March, be part of this event that will surely be fun and worthwhile. If you're interested in being a concessionaire, check out all the details on the poster below.

I'm excited for Summer!

Doppel-blogger

I learned through Facebook that this week (first week of February) is Doppelganger Week! In lieu of celebrating the said internet meme, I made some photo match-ups of bloggers to celebrities that look like them.

This is just for kicks, okay! 

Now let's see and judge the similarities of..

Kryz Uy (kryzuy.com) and Tiffany Hwang of Girls' Generation

For the past few weeks, I've been watching this reality TV series starring the K-Pop group, Girls' Generation. I've noticed that one of the members, Tiffany, has an uncanny similarity with how Kryz Uy smiles. They both have "smiling eyes" and have a cute look!

Kring Elenzano (funnysexy.ph) and Kim Tae Yeon of Girls' Generation

On normal days, Kring doesn't look so much like Tae Yeon but man, this photo makes them both look alike. I think it's the pose and the smile...

Sophie Uy (beautynomics.com) and Sunny Lee of Girls' Generation

Yes, you can say that I watch too many Girls' Generation videos that I found three doppelgangers in their 9-girl group! When Sunny talks, her face kind of looks like Sophie's! I swear! They can pass as relatives in the photo above, don't you think?

Patty Laurel (pattylaurel.com) and Tweetie De Leon

They look soooooo alike!!! They're like sisters!!! Especially in this photo!!! And they're both so pretty and classy!!! 

Jackie Go (gojackiego.com) and Han Chae Young

If you don't watch korean dramas, I'm pretty sure you don't know the girl on the right. She's been in a lot of tv dramas, and is also very sexy - just like Jackie! Plus, they have the same nose, face shape, smile, and eyes! Very artistahin!

Martha Sta. Barbara (thebeautyjunkee.blogspot.com) and Tetchie Agbayani

In some angles, Martha looks like Tweetie De Leon. But she has a look that would make you think that she's the daughter of Tetchie Agbayani! Ang taray! Sharing the same skin color and fierce look, Martha and Tetchie really has the mag-ina peg. 

Jayvee Fernandez (abuggedlife.com) and Rowan Atkinson/Mr. Bean

Before meeting Jayvee in person, Marcelle and Carlos told me that Jayvee looks a tad bit like Mr. Bean.  At first, I didn't buy it. When I met Jayvee in a telco event, what they were saying was true! And he didn't look like Mr. Bean a tad bit - he so looks like him! The picture of Jayvee doesn't do justice but if you really do want to believe me, you have to see him in person.

So, who do you think has the closest match-up?